It’s tempting to play it safe when it comes to sex positions. My personal favorite — a modified version of missionary .” When you’re short on time, energy or ideas, it makes sense to revert back to the familiar positions that get us off in bed. So why fix it if it ain’t broke? Because you might not even know what you’re missing until you try.
For women, the best-feeling positions are often the ones that stimulate your clitoris: girl-on-top, reverse cowgirl, etc. These typically lead to clitoral orgasm, which is the most common type. But that’s not the only way to come. Deep penetration and thrusting stimulate you in other places, leading to other kinds of orgasms — G-spot or cervical, for instance. And you’re not going to get there if you keep taking the shortcut and using the same position to get off (not that I blame a woman).
Next time you’ve got some time on your hands or are just feeling extra frisky and adventurous, these 10 positions are an excellent way to start breaking out of your sex position rut. And who knows? By trying them out (a fun activity in and of itself), you might even find your new favorite “old faithful.”
A modified version of doggy style, teaspoon provides an equally good opportunity for deep penetration — but with a bit more connection because your bodies and faces will remain close. Kneel on the bed or ground and have your partner enter you from behind and touch and stimulate you from the front while you remain upright.
Pro tip: “Differences of height with partners can be helped by placing her lying on a pillow on her side,” says certified sex therapist Marissa Nelson. “It will give her an extra boost so he can penetrate her at a better angle, making it more pleasurable for both.”
Have your partner enter you from behind while you grab your ankles or brace your hands against the floor to help keep you stable. This position is great for easy, deep penetration and fast, intense thrusting, but is a little less intimate since your faces are so far away from each other.
“For added stimulation, bring your legs together while he’s thrusting, which will create a tight grip and insane pleasure for both of you,” says Nelson. It’s also a good one to keep in mind if you’re ever outside or somewhere without a bed, since you can both stay on your feet the whole time (assuming you don’t fall, at least).
“Lotus is another great opportunity for clitoral stimulation,” says Alden. “This position can be difficult to get into a groove with and find balance, but definitely worth a try due to the closeness and heat that comes with it.”
If you’re a fan of cowgirl and girl-on-top, this position will be a natural fit for you. “While it’s not the easiest of positions, it gives women ultimate control and deep penetration from a different angle,” says Nelson. “You should also self-stimulate the clitoris at the same time to have a possible blended orgasm.”
Have your partner lie on his back in bed and draw his knees in toward his chest. Grab his legs and use them as leverage to help you move up and down, controlling the pace and depth of penetration.
“This is a great opportunity for men to easily stimulate the woman’s clitoris with his hands and get a great view at the same time,” says Alden. “It doesn’t require a ton of physical labor, just a little flexibility. It’s also an opportune moment for women who are feeling exposed or body-conscious to practice self-acceptance.”
Though not for the non-athletic or faint of heart, if you’re naturally flexible, this should be one of the first new positions you try. “It’s an ideal position for G-spot access and orgasms,” says Nelson. Lie on your side, lifting your top leg up as high as you can, and have your partner enter you from the side while kneeling. Your limbs will fit together like lock and key and be at an ideal angle for some serious thrusting friction.
“To make it even better, when he’s thrusting, start doing some Kegels, you will be squeezing his penis tight, which will make him squeal, and the sensation is very pleasurable for you,” she adds.
Climb on top of your partner while he’s sitting with his legs straight ahead. This is a great one for serious friction, deep penetration and feeling intimate and close — a winner all-around. “Instead of bouncing up and down, try grinding simultaneously,” says Nelson. “He can also put his hand on your butt for more assertive and deeper penetration.”
Before you take on this position, know that it’s quite athletic, requiring a lot of action on both your parts — see how she’s holding up her body with her hands? Not as easy as it looks. But the payoff can be super-deep penetration and thrusting — very satisfying for both of you.
“One trick to making wheelbarrow easier is doing it off the side of the bed on your elbows instead of holding yourself up with your hands,” says Nelson. “It’s great for those who enjoy deep penetration and tends to be really hot and erotic for him.”