Every relationship has its ups and downs, but what separates abusive relationships from the others is that in the first ones one partner has total control over the other mentally, physically and emotionally. It’s clear that we want to avoid these types of relationships, but the thing is that most of us sooner or later fall into one of these relationships. If we are the victim in it, we feel depressed, scared and we need help to stand on our feet again. This list of quotes is created to help us do that. Just remember one thing, if abuse in a relationship happens, the chances are that that relationship is going to fail.
Abuse In Relationship
It is not the the bruises on the body that hurt. It is the wounds of the heart and the scars on the mind.
The greater the power, the more dangerous the abuse. -Edmond Burke
Domestic abuse happens only in intimate, interdependent, long-term relationships – in other words, in families – the last place we would want or expect to find violence. -Leslie Morgan Steine
It is impossible to correct abuses unless we know that they’re going on.
Abuse in relationship
“You can have a pet zebra and put that zebra into a small cage every day and tell the zebra that you love it, but no matter how you and the zebra love each other, the fact remains, that the zebra should be let out of that cage and should belong to someone who can treat it better, the way it should be treated, someone who can make it happy.”
“One of the obstacles to recognizing chronic mistreatment in relationships is that most abusive men simply don’t seem like abusers. They have many good qualities, including times of kindness, warmth, and humor, especially in the early period of a relationship. An abuser’s friends may think the world of him. He may have a successful work life and have no problems with drugs or alcohol. He may simply not fit anyone’s image of a cruel or intimidating person. So when a woman feels her relationship spinning out of control, it is unlikely to occur to her that her partner is an abuser.” -Lundy Bancroft
You survived the abuse. You’re going to survive the recovery.
“Women may come to the recovery process to “fix” their relationships, but what they end up learning is how to rescue and restore themselves. Many women believe, and you may too, that they need to speak and act differently so their partner behaves more favorably toward them. If your partner blames you for what “you made him do to you,” over time you will end up blaming yourself. Your task is to realize that you are not responsible for his abusive behavior. Women tend to work hard to avoid being hurt or to stop their partners from abusing them, but they aren’t successful. You cannot make your partner abuse you and you can’t make him not abuse you. These are his choices and his alone. The task is to refocus on yourself and your recovery.” -Carol A Lambert
Family is supposed to be our safe haven. Very often, it’s the place where we find the deepest heartache.
Not all wounds are visible.